Wednesday, February 20, 2013

Tell me I’m pretty, I’m begging you.


If you’ve ever been on anywhere on the internet ever for more than 3 minutes, I’m sure you’ve seen this.


“gettin ready for bed ughhh….lookin terible 2night lol”

Ah yes. The poorly photoshopped “bad” picture, it’s one of my favorites. And with a caption like that a series of comments are sure to follow.

Random friend:“whatever. yu look gorgos, babe”

OP: “ug. no I dont quit lieng, you’re the most gorgess one girl.”

Random friend 2: “ommmg. this is so pretty I wish I was pretty and not ugly like you. give me some of dat pretty”

Relative over 60: “one time I met garth brooks in the walmart parking lot and he said he had to leave because he was going to bed. you must have a lot in common with garth.”

Random friend 3: “dang girl. you lookin fineeeee. why u tkaenig all the good looks? share some once in a while.”

OP: “oh guys, really this is looking bad, lol but whatever yu say I gues.”

A girl posts a bad picture of herself doing something mundane, such as getting ready for bed, comments about how ugly she is and boom—flocks of people are there to tell her she is beautiful. Oh, I bet she had NO IDEA that would happen. She wasn’t fishing for compliments or anything. She just likes to post pictures of herself which she thinks are awful, and then comment on how awful they are, just for fun.


Is it because we feel like we need to be validated by some random person?? And why does everyone fall for the bait? If someone is announcing how hideous they look, 99.9% (that’s a scientific statistic) they just want compliments. And EVERYONE GIVES THEM COMPLIMENTS. Like seriously? Why?

And so even though we face the difficulties of today and tomorrow, I still have a dream. It is a dream deeply rooted in the American dream.

I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live out the true meaning of its creed: "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all girls are created prettier than all other girls."

I have a dream that one day on the blue pages of facebooks, the attention seekers and the false compliment givers will be able to sit down together at the table of sisterhood.


Let’s imagine if the internet suddenly went ‘poof’ and was gone forever. The world  would be kind of scary for all of our attention seekers. Imagine going to Kroger, okay, and you’re just going through the self check-out because you don’t want to have to speak to anyone, and then all of a sudden out of nowhere, a head pops over the wall. It’s a girl, in full hair and makeup, wearing a prom dress. “UUUGH I LOOK SO UGLY! TELL ME I AM PRETTY! I AM UGLY, NO, I AM PRETTY! TELL ME!”

um. what. no, you get a punch in the forehead. It’s kind of ridiculous to put that way, but that’s kind of how I picture it every time someone is fishing for compliments online.

And what happens if you are no longer able to get people to fall for it? Imagine if no one ever commented on your pictures and told you that you were pretty, ever again. Would you be okay with that?

Because here’s the thing, if your happiness and sense of self worth comes from people’s compliments, there’s something wrong here. You’re more than what people say about you. Or at least, you should be.

Okay and another thing that bothers me: Why on earth do girls call eachother baby, babe, lover, honey, etc like ALL THE TIME. Stop doing that. It creeps me out.


here is what normal people look like “getting ready for bed”


throw in a girl with a toothbrush, and another one on facebook, and basically you have every sleepover, ever.


Lisa Jordan said...

Bekah! I love it; you are spot on! So happy that you are writing. Keep up the most excellent work--what voice!

Joesette said...

Love it!

Naomi said...

"Okay and another thing that bothers me: Why on earth do girls call each other baby, babe, lover, honey, etc like ALL THE TIME. Stop doing that. It creeps me out."

Loved this whole post. Forget that; I'm kinda hooked on your blog.